I use "Remove Before Flight" as a catch phrase for this particular lesson that I've assimilated because it is displayed so gracefully by the U.S. Air Force. When an aircraft is stored or had work done on it, these red flags are placed on pieces that need to be removed before ascent to ensure safety of the pilot and integrity of the craft. I believe that we all have these little flags hanging on us, and in order to be free to fly the way wish, we first must remove the parts that are holding us back, or that may cause turbulence on the road ahead. The RBF flags of life can range anywhere from a conversation that needs to be had, an apology that needs to be made, an insecurity that must be let go, or forgiveness that needs to be granted. These seemingly small factors in our lives actually have a pretty large influence on our current state of being. I say this because of a variety of philosophies and experience. Whether you believe in string theory, law of attraction, karmic ties, or repentance, the idea that our actions have eternal effects until they are resolved is one that repeats itself throughout history and our lives. Think of it this way, if you were in an argument with someone and it ended without resolution and with both parties misunderstood, you are left tied to that moment. Whenever you interact, or hear one another's names, that instant will resurface, and the impression you left at that moment will be felt again. Regardless of your own evolution and progression, the idea of you as a person will remain stagnant in your counterpart's reality until the dissonance is resolved.
As you resolve these issues, you are released from old ideas of your identity and are free to be authentically you. To me, becoming authentically myself and discovering who that is has been the most fulfilling journey I've ever taken. This led me on a quest, to start releasing ALL of my karmic ties. Even the ones that were simply a conversation I never had with someone that I should have, or that boy that I've been talking to forever that isn't quite sure of my intentions and I know I can ease his angst by simply being honest. I even decided to break the tie with my Uncle Donnie, who murdered my father when I was 14. I told him that I was doing fine, and that I have a bright future regardless of the pain he caused me. This was to keep negativity from his mind whenever he heard my name... See the correlation here? Whether it is from your mind or another's, when there is something unfinished between you and another person, your relationship with that person remains the same as it was when you left it, and if you don't make an effort to evolve these things as you do, the more un-evolved parts of your life will hold you back from furthering yourself because that person is like a charm, they are a tie to an old you, and that tie must be released in order for you to be free and replace that negativity with a new lesson or change.
I have made up a seemingly simple procedure for releasing these ties that can help you on your own quest to remove your own red flags before flight. As a human, your opinion matters, and if you dream up an aspect I have missed, please feel free to add to it!
1. Be honest about your feelings: Am I really still upset about this? Will ending the tie cause me pain or will it release it?What has been keeping me from ending this tie? Do I have things that need to be resolved before I can move on or am I just moving on and leaving it unresolved?
2. Be honest about their feelings. This can be the hardest part, but look deeply at the other involved. Search for their humanity and what may have compelled their actions. Find a place of common ground, whether it be hurt, frustration, anger, or sorrow,
3. Approach with truth instead of ego. Real truth. Not "Well he hit my car so he should be the first to apologize", but the truth of a situation. The truth that he hit your car, but it was an accident, and you are capable of the same mistake, so lets resolve this and move on kind of truth.
4. Be willing to let it go. If you have buried the hatchet with someone, there is no reason to bring up the uglier parts of your story any longer. That will keep you tied to that moment. Instead, let that person become who they are in the moment, not who they were when they wronged you.